Discipline and Punishment-What's the Difference?
What Is Discipline? Discipline can be defined as: Helping a child learn to get along with his family and friends. Teaching a child to behave in an agreeable way. Allowing a child the freedom to learn from his mistakes and experience the consequences of his decisions. Effective discipline is helping, teaching, and learning. Discipline Is Not Punishment.
Some think discipline and punishment are the same thing. Some think discipline is getting a child to behave and teaching him to be obedient. Some think it is what you do when children are naughty or misbehave. Whereas punishment focuses on the child, discipline targets the act. When we punish a child we are in effect saying to him, "You are loved (or not loved) because of the things you do." Punishment teaches the child to be "good" as long as we are looking - but as soon as we turn our heads, watch out!
Discipline separates the child's "goodness" from how well he does on a task. Our message now says, "You are OK even when your behavior is NOT OK." We love the child but reject the behavior. The purpose of discipline is to raise responsible, confident children who grow up to be persons who think for themselves, who care about others, and who live satisfying and useful lives.
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Shar Spencer
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