Thursday, April 12, 2012
Internet Safety for School Age Children with Computers
Like many things in life, the Internet has potential for harm, but guess what? So does crossing the street. So just as you would hold their hand and look both ways before stepping into a crosswalk, there are ways that you can hold your kid's hand virtually, even if you are (away from their keyboard). Here are seven steps to get assist you:
Carve out a space: For younger kids, having a family computer in an open, shared location (like a family room or home office) can be one way to keep tabs. But with older kids, that might not be such an easy task. You can install monitoring software and/or filtering, but kids often find ways around these. Parental controls can help, but they won't teach your child how to behave outside your home, where "everybody's doing it." Be certain that you are aware of where your child is at and the environment that they are visiting. This is important!
Get tech savvy: If you don't know as much about computers as your kid(s), ask them to show and tell you where they're going online. If you need to bone up on your computer skills, most areas in the U.S. have local computer user groups, offering introductory computer classes for free or a nominal fee. Search online for: "[your city name] computer user group," and you're bound to get some leads. Also, you can always check “history” on their computer to see for yourself where they visit at while online!
Learn the lingo: In order to talk tech with your kids on their level, you need to speak their language. Two-way communication is key: You want your child to feel comfortable enough to come to you if something or someone questionable comes to them. But more importantly, you want to establish that they won't be punished if they come to you first! Do not given them too much freedom on the Internet. Just as there is Good online there is a world of Evil and corrupt websites that can damage and “pervert” your child’s young mind! Too much freedom online for a child is just as bad as too much freedom on television, both offer too much adult sites that are not good for a child’s mind!
Chat offline:Before your kid logs on, talk to him or her about the types of things online that can be misleading, i.e., someone requesting a private chat or asking them for personal information about where they live, what they look like, how old they are or their phone number. Make sure to have a dialogue and not a monologue: Not only does this empower your child, but again, it can make him or her feel more comfortable about coming to you with questions down the road.
Explain anonymity:Having an anonymous person online is an in-depth topic all by itself, but needless to say, it's important your child understands that on the Internet, things are not always as they appear. The photo of the 13-year-old posted on their favorite social networking site or online profile may not show the actual person they're communicating with.
Take extra precautions:Determine whether you really need that webcam or not. If you do, make sure it is only used with parental supervision. A large portion of webcam usage is adult-related. What's more, there are certain individuals who take abnormal pleasure in viewing children's ordinary activities online.
Make a deal:You can always set ground rules when appropriate. But instead of restricting Internet access, many parents have found an agreement in writing—a contract of sorts—helpful.
Limit the time that your child is online: Set definite boundaries with your child throughout their Internet Experience. If they are researching for homework, playing games, learning songs, or whatever the project may be, make certain that they are doing what you have given them permission to do and limit the amount of time that they can be on line. Personally I suggest no longer then one hour.
So, in short, don't be afraid of the Internet. It can be a great place for entertainment and a wealth of information (You're online now, aren't you?). When it comes to the positive parenting of your kids, just remember keep the lines of communication open.
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